Archive for September 20th, 2005

I Corinthians 13:5

Tuesday, September 20th, 2005

. . . Love does not insist on its own way . . . RSV

Another verse somewhat related to the above verse is I Corinthians 9:19KJV:

For though I be free from all men, yet have I made myself servant unto all, that I might gain the more.

Again, in I Corinthians 10:24RSV it is stated:

Let no one seek his own good, but the good of his neighbor.

And again, in I Corinthians 10:33KJV it is stated:

Even as I please all men in all things, not seeking mine own profit, but the profit of many, that they may be saved.

Matthew Henry, in his commentary, states:

Our own humour and appetite must not determine our practice, but the honour of God and the good and edificaton of the church. Henry, Matthew. “Commentary on 1 Corinthians 10.” Matthew Henry Commentary on the Whole Bible. Blue Letter Bible. 01 Mar 1996. 20 Sep 2005.

In applying I Corinthians 5 to my life as a wife and mother, in my interactions with my husband and children, I have paraphrased it to myself as: Say, “Yes,” whenever possible.

When my husband wants to rearrange a room, it is loving to try to say, “OK! Let’s try that,” rather than immediately coming up with all the reasons I would rather have the room remain comfortably the same. (I don’t like my surroundings to change unless there is some HUGE reason they should be redone. 🙂 ) It is better to encourage my husband’s ideas whenever that is possible, rather than saying him, “Nay”. Also, if the suggested change does not work out, I need to be gracious about that as well. As Matthew Henry says, I must not be ruled by my own “humour”–which I take to mean my own preferences–but must consider first of all what will honor God and rightly please others.

When the children were little, they often had little requests which, to an adult, might have seemed inconsequential. However, I believed that to be truly loving to them, to nurture their spirits, I needed to honor these requests, and respond with a “Yes!” whenever that was possible. It is good to teach the little ones to help with the household work, to expect them to obey immediately, to instruct them academically, but it is also good and it is truly loving to say such things as:

  • Yes, let’s go to the park for a picnic today.
  • Yes, we’ll buy that fabric and start sewing that dress as soon as possible.
  • Yes, you have finished all your chores; you may invite your friend over to play.
  • Yes, that sounds delicious; I’ll make that for dinner.
  • Yes, you may make blanket tents in the living room; clean it up afterwards.
  • Yes, let’s take a break now and read that book together.