Archive for October 9th, 2005

Some Thoughts on Marriage, Inspired by Reading a Book by Larry Burkett

Sunday, October 9th, 2005

In Larry Burkett’s book Using Your Money Wisely in the chapter “Unequally Yoked” in which he discusses business partnerships, he also comments on marriage:

The analogy of a yoke to a marriage is an accurate one. A marriage should be two people, pulling in common bond toward compatible goals and sharing the load equally.

Also, he says:

Just because we can have partnerships with other believers does not mean that we should. Paul said, “All things are lawful for me, but not all things are profitable.” (II Cor.6:12a). Stretching that principle a little, we can say, “Any two Christians can be partners, but not all should be.” There are different levels of maturity, commitment, and human compatibility. Choosing a business partner should be done with the same caution with which you would choose a spouse.

An application I would take from this is in advising young people concerning a marriage prospect:

  • Make sure you truly know the character of the person you are considering, and are not being deceived by a favorable facade or by one’s own emotions. Just because two people believe the same things or are members of the same church, does not mean that they would make suitable marriage partners.

In the chapter “Keeping a Vow”, Larry Burkett says,

Once someone has given his word, it becomes a binding contract to be fulfilled. Thus, before agreeing to any terms, it is assumed that an individual has carefully considered the consequences.

Few scriptural principles are clearer than that of keeping our vows – literally keeping our word both to God and to others. “It is better that you should not vow than that you should vow and not pay.’ (Ecclesiastes 5:5).

When a couple gets married, they exchange vows or promises to each other. They promise to love each other and forsake all others no matter what. That will hold true, even if the other partner becomes . . . disabled, ugly, or old.

An application would be:

  • Be careful! Do not rush into marriage just to be married! You are making a vow which God requires you to keep, no matter what “outs” the civil magistrate may provide.

Another application, this time to the married, would be:

  • Do not be discouraged. Keeping the vow is a good thing. Do not become weary in well-doing. (Galatians 6:9) Seek God’s grace to walk in love and purity.

A Favorite Bible Verse

Sunday, October 9th, 2005

“Remove far from me vanity and lies: give me neither poverty nor riches; feed me with food convenient for me: Lest I be full, and deny thee, and say, Who is the LORD? or lest I be poor, and steal, and take the name of my God in vain.” ~Proverbs 30:8,9

This verse reminds me of the petition in the Lord’s prayer in Matthew 6:11, “Give us this day our daily bread.” The petition in Proverbs 30:8,9 is more like, “Lord, please give me just the right amount of daily bread. I am likely to sin if I have too little bread or too much bread.” If I have too little bread, or the good things of this life, I may be tempted to use unlawful means to seek to procure them. This would discredit my profession that I trust in God to provide for me. If I have an overabundance of bread, I may forget how dependent I truly am upon the Lord for life, breath, and all things. I may imagine that I do not need him, but that my own abilities and talents are sufficient.
When I ask the Lord to “feed me with food convenient for me,” I am asking two things:

  • I am asking the Lord to give me enough of that which I need. We do have real needs, and we need real supplies. As an obvious example, we need nourishing food and clean water to live and be healthy. In this supplication, I am asking the Lord to take good care of me in providing me with these things, so that I may thrive.
  • I am asking the Lord to decide what amount of this world’s good things is convenient, or good, for me particularly. I need not waste time wondering why I am not as prosperous as someone else. His or her state in life has nothing to do with the part the Lord has for me to play. We read in Matthew 25:15, “Unto one he gave five talents, to another two, and to another one; to every man according to his several ability. .” I want the Lord to entrust to me only that amount of this world’s good things which will be for my good and His glory.