Archive for July, 2008
The word FACES brought to my mind the fact that we all have a variety of FACES, which show themselves depending upon whom we are looking. For example, I am a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother, a grandmother, a friend, a neighbor, a coworker, etc. For this prompt, I chose to focus on a role or FACE which is common to many of us, and is desired by many not currently in this role: the married FACE.
The poetry form I am using is the sestina, a newly-discovered favorite. To me, this is like doing a combination of crossword puzzle, Scrabble, and Sudoku, because, though I don’t need to do any rhyming, yet a definite form must still be followed. It’s so much fun; I highly recommend it!
MARRIAGE DESIRED – A SESTINA
At certain seasons of life comes the desire to marry.
Seeking a soul-mate, a companion, is a good desire
Not only for friendship, but to find a deep and meaningful love.
It’s not Happily Ever After, but lots of hard work
To build a strong marriage. Wise counsel, good advice
Are what you need prior to making this decision, my friend.
First, don’t be anxious. Stay busy with your friends.
There are lots of things to do, and places to go, before you marry.
Develop your talents, follow your dreams, is my advice.
As you pursue your passions, you may meet someone who shares your desires.
Be the person you want to be, now; with enthusiasm work
And play before beginning life with your love.
You desire completion; you want to be loved.
You’re tired of being alone; you want that dearest friend.
If all you can see are your needs, this just won’t work.
It’s a fable that life becomes perfect when you marry.
No one can make you happy or fulfill every desire.
Be someone of value yourself; focus on giving is my advice.
My dear friend, I have yet more advice,
A caution: Not everyone is good, deserving of your love.
Look for true character, not just the fluttering of desire.
You are careful whom you choose as a friend,
But more significant than this is whom you will marry.
It takes two giving hearts to truly make a marriage work.
No matter how prepared you two are, this is going to be hard work.
Your hearts entwined will still miscommunicate; you’ll need this advice:
“Don’t give up!” Learn to really know this one you have married.
Time and again you will need to forgive, be forgiven, and to love.
Even when you don’t feel like it, be a true friend;
Build common passions, goals, memories, and desires.
Dear little ones, precious children, may be the fruit of your desire.
This, too, is no utopia, but will require long years of diligent work
If they are to mature into people you would be proud to call “friend.”
I wish for you, plenty of all good things, including this wise advice:
Let all that you do, toward spouse and children, be done with love.
Then, when all is said and done, you will be thankful you married.
If you desire to marry, may this be a fruitful desire
Leading to a life of love, showing itself in daily selfless works
Receiving one another’s advice, may you find in your spouse a true friend.
The prompts given this week for Three Word Wednesday
My contribution is the following Tanka:
What are ten things to do when it’s too hot to go outside?
This is the prompt given by Yano this week for Ten on Tuesday.
In the 25+ years that we’ve lived in Northwest Washington State, we’ve had some hot days, even a really warm week, but it’s never been too hot to go outside.
For this one, I’ll have to remember back to my childhood in Phoenix, Arizona. Back when I was a child (I know this makes me sound ancient) it was often as hot inside the house as outside, the only relief being that one wasn’t in the direct sun, and possibly a fan would be blowing, but not to much effect. Few private residences had air conditioning. Instead we had evaporative, or “swamp” coolers which didn’t do much to make the house cooler. Here are some of the things we did when it was too hot to go outside:
- Go shopping at the mall (Ahh! Air conditioning!)
- Go to a movie (Again, air conditioning.)
- Play in the shade, preferably with a wash tub of water for a “pool” or the sprinkler spraying.
- Go swimming at the public pool.
- Go for a drive with all the car windows open.
- Go on a picnic to a cooler location. For us, this meant heading north towards Flagstaff.
- Go play billiards (Air conditioning, and a fun activity).
- Be as quiet as possible in the house, perhaps reading, playing checkers, or playing cards.
- Don’t cook. Eat a big salad, or go out to an air-conditioned pizza parlor for dinner.
- For those of you currently suffering from the heat, consider a vacation to the Pacific Northwest. You must especially see the Washington, Oregon, and Northern California coasts. Think of the cooling ocean breezes. It’s truly refreshing!
A BIG Congratulations
to Sarah and Justin, who are engaged to be married this September 20th. We love Justin, and are looking forward to him being our son-in-law.
One of Justin’s friends snapped this great engagement shot of them (graffiti courtesy of me):
Yesterday we enjoyed fun times with some of our good friends. We had barbecued burgers with the fixin’s, great chips, and a great pasta salad, for which I need to get the recipe!
One of the highlights of get-togethers here is the initiation rite of going down the zip line. Here is a shot of one brave soul surviving the initiation:
Here are some cute “buddy” shots from the evening:
And, of course, I had to do some “show and tell” at the computer:
(I modified these photos at the Picnik site, if you wonder.)
This week for Thursday 13
I’m listing thirteen things that I do well:
- Post regularly on my blog!
- Enjoy my family, and take the time to do special things with them.
- Stay in touch with friends and family. Facebook is a big help with that.
- Keep a neat house (Notice I said neat, not immaculate.)
- Investigate words, concepts, ideas, etc. about which I am curious.
- Keep the pantry and refrigerator stocked with wholesome foods.
- Make a really great pot of coffee.
- Understand that I am, in and of myself, no better than anyone else.
- Thoroughly enjoy a good book (fiction or nonfiction).
- Try to focus on the positive in life, that which is praiseworthy and uplifting.
- Try to do good to others, as much as possible.
- Care about the weak, poor and suffering ones.
- Help students with study skills and math questions.
I know I’m supposed to be blogging daily, but I’m feeling a wee bit guilty, just now, about blogging THAT much (though I do enjoy it!).
Now that I’m working part days at summer school, there’s more of a time crunch if I’m to make life pleasant for my family. Therefore, I’m changing my blogging commitment to: Daily posts ONLY if that doesn’t keep me from pressing duties, and IF I don’t have to stay up too late in order to blog.
I’m in the midst, just now of getting some bills paid and other paperwork done. I popped online again to order some meds for my mom, so, sneakily, I’ll stay on just long enough to do this short post!
First order of business is a big THANK YOU to YOU, if you’ve been checking here to see if I’ve posted anything. That is very sweet of you, and I really appreciate it!
Next, I wanted to tell you about an author I’ve been enjoying in my spare time (right before falling asleep at night). Her name is Paula Marantz Cohen. She is a college professor who is so familiar with Jane Austen’s and Shakespeare’s works that she has begun writing modern-day versions of some of those classics.
So far I’ve read Jane Austen in Boca (a Pride and Prejudice take-off)
Jane Austen in Scarsdale (Persuasion revisited)
And Much Ado About Jessie Kaplan (What else? Much Ado About Nothing.)
These books are a light read, not classics in any sense of the word, but they are fun reads, and well-written. My favorite of the three is Jane Austen in Scarsdale. You will learn a lot about admission to Ivy League colleges in this one, surprisingly.
There you have some comments from the peanut gallery. Now I’m back to work!
(The images of the book covers are taken from the Amazon site, where you can purchase these books, if you are so inclined. You could also just check them out from your local library.)