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Thursday 13 Wedding Preparations

Thursday, September 11th, 2008

Thirteen things
I would like to get done before the upcoming wedding in our family (next weekend!), and dinner at our home prior to the wedding:

  • Dust the kitchen thoroughly
  • Scrub the tile floors
  • Neaten the carport (My husband and youngest son will do this.)
  • Buy a couple of tubs of chrysanthemums to decorate the front porch entryway
  • Preorder three decorated sheet cakes from Costco (for the reception)
  • Make sure the obvious garden beds are weeded, since hopefully the weather will permit guests to enjoy the out-of-doors
  • I’ve been told I need to insert some zippers in some dresses, which I will hopefully see this Saturday! These dresses are for the youngest wedding attendants.
  • Remind my husband to make a dump run to further clean up the yard.
  • Make sure my elderly mom has some attractive, comfortable clothing to wear to the wedding. I’ve ordered several things from an online store, Buck and Buck, which specializes in adaptive clothing. I surely hope this works out!
  • With my girls’ help, make sure that our basement suite is completely ready for our married daughter and her family, who will be arriving at wedding time, and an upstairs bedroom for my sister, who is the honor attendant, and who also will be staying with us.
  • Request two personal days off from work, the day of the rehearsal dinner, which we are hosting here, and the Monday after the wedding, so I can drive my sister to the airport.
  • Keep going for daily walks with the dog (Relax!)
  • Get well from the sore throat and chills which I have contracted. This means that I will have to get a decent amount of sleep, something I am loath to do!

Marriage Desired – A Poem

Thursday, July 31st, 2008

The prompt this week at One Single Impression
is FACES, suggested by Lissa at Just Writing Words. (Thanks, Lissa, for this prompt.)

The word FACES brought to my mind the fact that we all have a variety of FACES, which show themselves depending upon whom we are looking. For example, I am a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother, a grandmother, a friend, a neighbor, a coworker, etc. For this prompt, I chose to focus on a role or FACE which is common to many of us, and is desired by many not currently in this role: the married FACE.

The poetry form I am using is the sestina, a newly-discovered favorite. To me, this is like doing a combination of crossword puzzle, Scrabble, and Sudoku, because, though I don’t need to do any rhyming, yet a definite form must still be followed. It’s so much fun; I highly recommend it!


At certain seasons of life comes the desire to marry.

Seeking a soul-mate, a companion, is a good desire

Not only for friendship, but to find a deep and meaningful love.

It’s not Happily Ever After, but lots of hard work

To build a strong marriage. Wise counsel, good advice

Are what you need prior to making this decision, my friend.

First, don’t be anxious. Stay busy with your friends.

There are lots of things to do, and places to go, before you marry.

Develop your talents, follow your dreams, is my advice.

As you pursue your passions, you may meet someone who shares your desires.

Be the person you want to be, now; with enthusiasm work

And play before beginning life with your love.

You desire completion; you want to be loved.

You’re tired of being alone; you want that dearest friend.

If all you can see are your needs, this just won’t work.

It’s a fable that life becomes perfect when you marry.

No one can make you happy or fulfill every desire.

Be someone of value yourself; focus on giving is my advice.

My dear friend, I have yet more advice,

A caution: Not everyone is good, deserving of your love.

Look for true character, not just the fluttering of desire.

You are careful whom you choose as a friend,

But more significant than this is whom you will marry.

It takes two giving hearts to truly make a marriage work.

No matter how prepared you two are, this is going to be hard work.

Your hearts entwined will still miscommunicate; you’ll need this advice:

“Don’t give up!” Learn to really know this one you have married.

Time and again you will need to forgive, be forgiven, and to love.

Even when you don’t feel like it, be a true friend;

Build common passions, goals, memories, and desires.

Dear little ones, precious children, may be the fruit of your desire.

This, too, is no utopia, but will require long years of diligent work

If they are to mature into people you would be proud to call “friend.”

I wish for you, plenty of all good things, including this wise advice:

Let all that you do, toward spouse and children, be done with love.

Then, when all is said and done, you will be thankful you married.

If you desire to marry, may this be a fruitful desire

Leading to a life of love, showing itself in daily selfless works

Receiving one another’s advice, may you find in your spouse a true friend.

Long, long ago, in a place far away . . .

Sunday, July 27th, 2008

With all of our thoughts upon the upcoming WEDDING, I’ve been reminiscing about Rick and my wedding, a little over 26 years ago. Of course, that means I would like to share some photos with you.

And, here’s the best photo. Last night, Rebecca tried on my wedding dress, just for fun:

An Upcoming Wedding in Our Family

Saturday, July 26th, 2008

A BIG Congratulations
to Sarah and Justin, who are engaged to be married this September 20th. We love Justin, and are looking forward to him being our son-in-law.

For those who may be interested, Sarah and Justin are registered at Target and at Bed, Bath and Beyond.

One of Justin’s friends snapped this great engagement shot of them (graffiti courtesy of me):

Thursday 13 – 13 Anniversary Trip photos

Thursday, July 3rd, 2008

To celebrate our 26th wedding anniversary, Rick and I took a quick trip to La Conner, Washington. Rick had done some house building there, in his carpentry days, and assured me that it was just the sort of place I would enjoy. He was right. La Conner reminded me quite a bit of Inverness, California, one of our favorite places to visit, in that it was artsy-craftsy, and near the ocean.

This week’s Thursday 13 is Thirteen Anniversary Trip photos.

We stayed in a lovely small hotel, The Heron Inn. Here is a shot of one of the stained glass windows that graces the front of that building.

We toasted one another while at The Heron Inn:

Here are a few street shots from La Conner:

Right behind the shops you see the waterway:

While looking through the shops, we came across some interesting and unique items, such as these bells at The Courtyard Gallery. The bells were fabricated out of old gas canisters, and had mellow and lovely tones when rung.

We saw this bear sculpture at the Courtyard Gallery, also.

We found a gift for a certain 2-year old grandson at Bears ‘n Friends.

If we carefully save our pennies, we might be able to afford one of these beautiful hand-crafted rocking chairs in about ten years. We found lots to admire at The Wood Merchant.

Rick nicely brought along the laptop so I could check my mail and play Scrabulous. 🙂

Happy Mother’s Day!

Saturday, May 10th, 2008

I would like to wish those of you who fit into this category a very happy Mother’s Day!

Today I have been the recipient of much pre-Mother’s Day activity.

Right after his morning coffee, my husband vacuumed the main floor of the house and then proceeded to clean the tile and the laminate with the Swiffer Wet Jet. Woohoo! The way to my heart is through my floor, evidently.

Further flooring activity followed as Rick finished installing the glueless laminate in the upstairs hall, and got the laundry chute in working order again. My, we have missed that chute. Guess we’re just spoiled.

After that, Rick’s attention turned to my oven. My oven door broke last week. The springs that allow the heavy door to open gently gave out with a horrible, exploding sound. After purchasing some springs at the hardware store, Rick repaired my oven door today. We were all excited about that, until we realized that the oven will not heat up. Guess I’ll have to call the repairman in after all to have a look at my faithful old oven (18 year old Dacor convection oven). I sure hope we don’t need to purchase another oven; too expensive, and I like this one.

Here you see a picture of Rick and me. I’m holding my Mother’s Day gift from Debra, the lovely bouquet she assembled in Floral Design class, and Rick is holding his gift to me. How do you like it?

Here is the lovely ceramic rose candle holder that Lydia made for me:

And here is Laura’s card. I especially enjoyed the sentiment, “Thanks for being the kind of mom who likes to chat . . .” because Laura and I chat online just about every day:

Just in today (5/11/2008): a lovely little azalea plant from daughter Sarah, plus a funny paper bookcover from Daiso Japan, our Japanese dollar store. Sometimes the sentiments written in English don’t make any sense, but these are pretty good: “HEY!”, “just for you”, “you’re special”, “hello”, “I appreciate you”, and “thanks so much” all on one little bookcover. Pretty cute. 🙂

Ten Things I Love About My Life

Tuesday, April 22nd, 2008

Yano at Ten on Tuesday
has asked her readers, “What are ten things you love about your life?”

There are many more than ten things that I could list. I have a wonderful life, a blessed life, and a busy life. But, since I have such a busy life, I’m thankful that Yano only wants us to list ten things. Here’s my list:

  • I love being reconciled to God, through the active and passive obedience of Christ on my behalf. “There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus; who gave himself a ransom for all, to be testified in due time.” – 1 Timothy 2:5,6.
  • I love my husband, and am thankful for him. What a blessing to be married to a godly, unselfish, hard-working guy, who also is a teaser-mc-beazer.
  • I love my children, each and every one of them. I am so thankful for all the great times we’ve enjoyed together as they’ve been growing up.
  • I love my church. What a blessing to gather together with God’s people to hear the faithful preaching of God’s Word on Sundays! One special emphasis at our church is learning to love one another, which is a very good thing indeed.
  • I love my work as a paraeducator. Each day is different and challenging, and the work has such a worthwhile end: furthering the educational development of young people.
  • I love my in-laws. They are common-sense, hard-working, generous people who love their children and grandchildren. And, they’re fun to visit, too.
  • I love having internet access, and a blog to write. What a great outlet this is!
  • I love having enough of life’s necessities, some of life’s luxuries, but not so much money that I need to worry about it.
  • I love having a healthy, strong body, still a faithful servant to me, so that I may work and be useful.
  • I love my sanity and intelligence. Thinking about things is a genuine pleasure.

Ten on Tuesday – 10 things to do before you get married

Tuesday, March 25th, 2008


10 Things to Do Before You Get Married

This meme is from Yano at Ten On Tuesday. I’m excited about this one, because I have such a wealth of opinions on this subject! Here, then is my list:

  1. Come to grips with the fact that marriage, in and of itself, will NOT make you happy. If marriage were a panacea, would there be such a high divorce rate?
  2. Make sure you are right with the Most Important Person, the Lord God who made you, before attempting to begin the next most important relationship, that of becoming one with a spouse.
  3. Develop and nurture the friendships and family relationships you already have. Learn how to work through the tough times. If you give up easily on these relationships, your hoped for marriage will suffer a similar fate.
  4. Complete the training for a career for which you are talented, and be established in that career BEFORE contemplating marriage. Is it really fair to expect the other person to put you though school?
  5. Be financially responsible before you marry. Do you pay your bills on time? Do you live within your means, save some money, and give to worthwhile charities? If the big bills are a surprise each month, this won’t change with marriage.
  6. Know how to care for yourself and your possessions before you marry. For example, can you take care of your car, clean your apartment, do your own laundry, and cook meals for yourself?
  7. Find a cause about which you are passionate, and become involved in it. What is the theme of your life?
  8. What do you do for fun? Are you doing it, or just vegging and daydreaming about it? Go hiking, biking, dancing, rock climbing, or whatever it might be.
  9. Take yourself less seriously, and others more seriously. A big ego equals a big bore (and a big boor, too). Also, a sense of humor goes a long ways towards sweetening a marriage.
  10. Focus on what YOU will give to a marriage, not on what you expect (or demand) to receive. At the same time, be oh-so-careful whom you marry, because the wrong choice can destroy your life. Do please be careful. Really get to know the other person, and get to know them around others who know them well. If you have doubts about the character of the other person, this is NOT the time to give them the benefit of the doubt.

How Social Darwinism has helped to undermine the family

Sunday, March 16th, 2008

I was catching up on some blog reading this morning and came across a fascinating post at Radical Womanhood. The author, Carolyn McCulley, gives a brief synopsis of the devastation to families caused by the philosophy of Social Darwinism. If your curiosity is piqued, you can read her post, The Economic Base of the Family, here.

More Than Rubies Monday

Monday, March 10th, 2008


This will be my first “real” More Than Rubies Mondays post. Last Monday I typed up Proverbs 31:10-31, which you will find as one of my blog pages. You can reread that, if you so desire, to get the whole description of the virtuous wife and mother, whose “price is far above rubies.” (Proverbs 31:10b).

I don’t plan to go through these verses systematically, as a pastor would. I’ll just chat with you about whatever comes to mind each week.

So – here you go!

I don’t know about you, but one of my character flaws is that I tend to compare myself unfavorably with others. This is a form of PRIDE that says, “If I’m not the the best at (fill in the blank), I’m going to be depressed about it.”

Look at that Proverbs 31 lady. It IS true that her husband says of her (verse 29), “Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.” The message I get is that it IS hard work to be an excellent wife and mother, NOT that this lady is comparing herself with others. She is simply striving to do a competent job, as she does the work of a wife and mom. According to her husband, she surely does succeed!

I have also caught myself comparing my older self unfavorably with my younger self. “I remember when I used to work hard baking or cleaning until midnight. I just don’t have that kind of energy anymore,” I’ll say regretfully. The truth of the matter is:

  • I DON’T have that kind of energy anymore. What kind of superhuman do I pretend to think that I am, that I would not age and decrease somewhat in vigor as the years march on?
  • I don’t NEED to have that kind of energy anymore. I no longer have a houseful of little ones who need lots of attention during the day. Some of the children are grown and gone from the family home. Those left at home are competent and willing to share in the work of the home.

Yes. I want to be competent. I want to do well, and even very well, all that is mine to do in my marriage and family. What I am NOT going to do, is compare myself unfavorably with every woman, past or present, who is better than me at something or another.

I will focus on my work. You focus on yours. Hope you do a great job in your home. That’s what I’m aiming for here, too.