I Corinthians 13:5

. . . Love does not insist on its own way . . . RSV

Another verse somewhat related to the above verse is I Corinthians 9:19KJV:

For though I be free from all men, yet have I made myself servant unto all, that I might gain the more.

Again, in I Corinthians 10:24RSV it is stated:

Let no one seek his own good, but the good of his neighbor.

And again, in I Corinthians 10:33KJV it is stated:

Even as I please all men in all things, not seeking mine own profit, but the profit of many, that they may be saved.

Matthew Henry, in his commentary, states:

Our own humour and appetite must not determine our practice, but the honour of God and the good and edificaton of the church. Henry, Matthew. “Commentary on 1 Corinthians 10.” Matthew Henry Commentary on the Whole Bible. Blue Letter Bible. 01 Mar 1996. 20 Sep 2005.

In applying I Corinthians 5 to my life as a wife and mother, in my interactions with my husband and children, I have paraphrased it to myself as: Say, “Yes,” whenever possible.

When my husband wants to rearrange a room, it is loving to try to say, “OK! Let’s try that,” rather than immediately coming up with all the reasons I would rather have the room remain comfortably the same. (I don’t like my surroundings to change unless there is some HUGE reason they should be redone. 🙂 ) It is better to encourage my husband’s ideas whenever that is possible, rather than saying him, “Nay”. Also, if the suggested change does not work out, I need to be gracious about that as well. As Matthew Henry says, I must not be ruled by my own “humour”–which I take to mean my own preferences–but must consider first of all what will honor God and rightly please others.

When the children were little, they often had little requests which, to an adult, might have seemed inconsequential. However, I believed that to be truly loving to them, to nurture their spirits, I needed to honor these requests, and respond with a “Yes!” whenever that was possible. It is good to teach the little ones to help with the household work, to expect them to obey immediately, to instruct them academically, but it is also good and it is truly loving to say such things as:

  • Yes, let’s go to the park for a picnic today.
  • Yes, we’ll buy that fabric and start sewing that dress as soon as possible.
  • Yes, you have finished all your chores; you may invite your friend over to play.
  • Yes, that sounds delicious; I’ll make that for dinner.
  • Yes, you may make blanket tents in the living room; clean it up afterwards.
  • Yes, let’s take a break now and read that book together.

4 Responses to “I Corinthians 13:5”

  1. Ginny says:

    Hi Joyce,

    I just discovered your blog today. What a delight to read your musings,
    your thoughts, and your meditations. Thanks for starting a blog, and for
    taking the time to post pictures, as well. I will definitely be back for
    future visits.

    Michael mentioned you will be taking another course at the tech college.
    That is so great. What will you be taking? He implied you have taken
    courses previously. If so, what have you taken before. I am impressed.

    Have a great week……Ginny

  2. Joyce says:

    Dear Ginny,
    Thank you for your kind comments.
    My children have been edifying me for quite a while now with their creative, heart-felt postings on their own blogs. Philip purchased the blog space, and helped each one set up and customize his/her blog. I decided to start writing down thoughts and advice which I hoped would edify the children as well. So, my children are my targeted blog audience. I am not trying to sound like a great authority to the world in general! 🙂
    At Bellingham Technical College I am taking a class entitled Paraeducator I. I desire, eventually, to work as a “teacher’s helper” with Special Education students such as my daughter, Debra. There is a shortage of one-on-one helpers who are so necessary if these kiddos are going to succeed. Prior to this class I took a skills review class as a preparation for taking the paraeducator qualifying test. No biggy, really. As a homeschool mom yourself, you know a lot more than what is required to pass that test!
    Rick knows that I love to be busy, so he has encouraged this interest. After doing this coursework, I will be volunteering at Debra’s high school.
    Take care! Joyce

  3. Ginny says:

    That sounds wonderful, and I thoroughly enjoyed your entry today
    where you posted the letter to your teacher.

    Your dedication to helping these kids, is outstanding and I really
    admire what you are doing. Thanks for sharing.

    I can imagine how empty your house must feel now with both Laura
    and Sarah moving out so close to each other. At least you will get
    to see Sarah more often I would imagine, but I
    can empathize with the beginnings of your empty nest syndrome.

    Take care….Ginny